On Jan 4, 9:24 pm, Crisstti <crissttigalda...@gmail.com> wrote:
> On Jan 5, 12:13 am, "who?" <yourimageunre...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
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> > On Jan 4, 8:36 pm, Crisstti <crissttigalda...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > On Jan 3, 11:37 pm, Beth K <quickservice...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > On Jan 3, 4:34 pm, Crisstti <crissttigalda...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > On Jan 3, 3:38 pm, "who?" <yourimageunre...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
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> > > > > > On Jan 3, 12:25 pm, Crisstti <crissttigalda...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > > > On Jan 3, 3:18 pm, "who?" <yourimageunre...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
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> > > > > > > > On Jan 3, 12:07 pm, Crisstti <crissttigalda...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > > > > > On Jan 3, 1:40 am, "who?" <yourimageunre...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
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> > > > > > > > > > On Jan 2, 10:12 pm, "RichL" <rpleav...@yahoo.com> wrote:
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> > > > > > > > > > > who? <yourimageunre...@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > > > On Jan 2, 7:04 pm, Nutella <amongthebeliev...@yahoo..com> wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > > >> On Jan 2, 5:06 pm, Mack A. Damia <mybaconbu...@hotmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > > > > > > > >>> I guess you're not following me. To hold hate inside of you is
> > > > > > > > > > > >>> unhealthy - same with grudges.
> > > > > > > > > > > >>> Over the years and the decades, that hate and grudge will take a
> > > > > > > > > > > >>> toll on your heart and health. Hating is stressful.
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> > > > > > > > > > > >> You're correct in this thinking. I practice Bikram Yoga. I learned an
> > > > > > > > > > > >> important
> > > > > > > > > > > >> lesson, and that is to "let it go". The unwillingness to forgive, in
> > > > > > > > > > > >> the end, is
> > > > > > > > > > > >> damaging to oneself. In most cases, the other person has little or no
> > > > > > > > > > > >> knowledge
> > > > > > > > > > > >> that someone is holding a grudge against them.
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> > > > > > > > > > > > And, they refuse to let the other person even know what they
> > > > > > > > > > > > are angry about.
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> > > > > > > > > > > > Jeff
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> > > > > > > > > > > Yeah, that's one of my pet peeves, Jeff. I like to just get it out,
> > > > > > > > > > > hash it over, and be done with it.
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> > > > > > > > > > Same here, Rich. Problem is, it's hard to do of course when
> > > > > > > > > > the other person won't let you know what's going on.
> > > > > > > > > > This happened to me with a relative for 30 years. "I"
> > > > > > > > > > finally changed all that...not expecting them to change,
> > > > > > > > > > but by making a change myself. I stayed completely
> > > > > > > > > > out of the persons way for 4 years...where I could
> > > > > > > > > > not be seen or gotten a hold of. After 4 years, "they"
> > > > > > > > > > wanted to see "me", and these days, we get along
> > > > > > > > > > great. Complete waste of time for both of us. 30
> > > > > > > > > > years is a long time.
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> > > > > > > > > > Jeff- Hide quoted text -
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> > > > > > > > > There are some relatives I'd like to stay away from... Not sure I tend
> > > > > > > > > to hold grudges or not... I usually don't (I think) but there are some
> > > > > > > > > exceptions, I must say...
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> > > > > > > > I think it's best to keep your distance from relatives who
> > > > > > > > make you feel uncomfortable...and people in general
> > > > > > > > who make you feel that way. Also, if you're always
> > > > > > > > the one who has to make the first move to get
> > > > > > > > together, I say forget them. One of my pet peeves
> > > > > > > > is when you call someone...and usually they tell
> > > > > > > > you to call "them" back later. Forget them too.
> > > > > > > > They aren't your friends. You just called them
> > > > > > > > and if they want to speak to you again, they
> > > > > > > > can call "you" back later.
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> > > > > > > I'd like to keep my distance, but the problem is one of them lives
> > > > > > > here and the another one (a sister) keeps coming all the time), and we
> > > > > > > can hardly spend a day without getting into some heavy argument...
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> > > > > > If your sister is always picking fights with you..for no reason,
> > > > > > and you just want to be left alone, I suggest to you to do
> > > > > > what I did: Do "not" return any phone calls she makes
> > > > > > to you, and completely leave the premises when she
> > > > > > arrives...even if you have to exit through a window or
> > > > > > a garage. It worked for me, but if you're still living at
> > > > > > home, this is much harder to do. When I was still
> > > > > > living at home, I would hide in the basement...but
> > > > > > always be captured. LOL
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> > > > > Yeah, my father.
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> > > > Hmmm. I'm just catching up on the threads to
> > > > see what else you wrote. Is your father the
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> > > No, he's actually quite different. There were just some heavy issues
> > > between us in the past, and now he'll complain to my mom that I'm not
> > > affectionate with him.
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> > That's strange.
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> > And he does react quite badly sometimes. Le's
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> > > just say he talks a lot about peace and stuff, but doesn't practice
> > > much (though now he's better than before). I often just don't like
> > > being around him.
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> > Too bad we couldn't choose our parents.
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> Yeah, well.
> Thanks for "listening" to me :).
No problem at all.
Jeff